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Anti-Bullying Resources

Mission Statement

The Connetquot Central School District of Islip is committed to raising the awareness of the issue of bullying in our schools. Our mission is to help parents, teachers, students and the community address this problem. We aspire to eradicate bullying in all district buildings and create mutual respect in the Connetquot community.


Connetquot High School DASA Coordinators

Michael Hansen, Dean of Students
Rosemarie Baldi-Abate, YFS
Kerrin Malinowski, YFS
Jessica Monahan, YFS
Eileen McAlpine, YFS


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What is bullying?
Bullying is aggressive behavior that is persistent, intentional and involves an imbalance of power or strength.  Traditionally bullying involves actions such as hitting, teasing, and or intimidation through social exclusion.  In addition, cyberbullying is bullying through the electronic media.

The four types of bullying are:

- Physical         
- Verbal  
- Cyber  
- Relational  

What are the possible warning signs of bullying?

Warning signs for parents may include, but are not limited to, when your child:
Comes home with damaged or missing clothing or other belongings
Reports losing items such as books, electronics, clothing, or jewelry
Has unexplained injuries
Complains frequently of headaches, stomach-aches, or feeling sick
Has trouble sleeping or has frequent bad dreams
Has changes in eating habits
Hurts himself or herself
Is very hungry after school from not eating their lunch
Runs away from home
Loses interest in visiting or talking with friends
Is afraid of going to school or other activities with peers
Loses interest in school work or begins to do poorly in school
Appears sad, moody, angry, anxious or depressed when they come home
Talks about suicide
Feels helpless
Often feels like they are not good enough
Blames themselves for their problems
Suddenly has fewer friends
Avoids certain places
Acts differently

If you suspect your child is involved in bullying behavior, please consider the following:

Discuss your concerns with your child

Determine if your child has been having any particular problems with other children

Assess if your child is experiencing difficulties in other areas

Assist your child in understanding the serious nature and consequences of bullying behavior

Contact your child’s school if you need additional assistance and/or support

Share your concerns with your child’s teacher or any other significant adult (YFS Coordinator, Guidance Counselor, Psychologist, teacher, coach, scout-leader etc.)

How can you help your child?

Give strategies for the target/victim:

Ignore or walk away

Assertively tell the person to stop and then walk away

Warn that you will get help from an adult and then walk away

Get help - clearly tell an adult what has happened

Offer Support:
Speak to your child privately.  Learn about what’s been going on.  Listen, get the facts and assess your child's feelings about the bullying.  Is this the first time he or she has been hurt by bullying or is this something that has been going on for a while?  Assure your child that it is not his or her fault.

Praise your child for their courage to discuss bullying incidents with you.  Explain how helpful they are being by providing this important information.


A Digital Footprint - Remember that YouTube, Facebook, and Smart Phones are instantaneous and last forever!

Did You Know?

93% of all children between 12-17 use the internet

32% of teens clear their browser history to hide information from their parents

16% of teens have created private emails and social network pages to hide information from their parents

20% of teens have engaged in cyberbullying

42% of parents do not review the content of their child’s internet access

30% of parents allow their children to use the computer in unsupervised areas

What is Cyberbullying?

Cyberbullying can be:
Sending mean, vulgar, or threatening messages or images

Posting sensitive, private information and/or lies about another person

Pretending to be someone else in order to make that person look bad

Intentionally excluding someone from an online group

Where does Cyberbullying occur?

Email, instant messaging, text, digital images, social network sites (Facebook, Club Penguin, Twitter, Oovoo, AIM), Web pages, Blogs, Chat rooms

Types of Cyberbullying

Identity theft - fake profiles might be set up pretending to be an individual with the sole aim of bullying others

Chat rooms, blogs and forums - although you are supposed to be at least 13 years of age, very few are monitored

Pictures and photo sharing – videos of girls or boys dressing and undressing in the locker room, etc.

Text messages and E-mails that are abusive or threatening

Social media networks, such as Facebook, that post offensive messages about others

What can parents do about Cyberbullying?

Encourage your child to talk about their friends and share their day

Don’t overreact until you are sure about the situation

Encourage your child to share any abusive or offensive material sent to them via the internet or phone

Turn on safety features to ensure your family only receives messages from approved sources

Remember it is important to help your child solve the problem, include them in the solution

If the situation deems necessary, contact your local police department immediately

Related Sites

CYBER TIPLINE/1-800-843-5678
Cyberbullying research center-
Connect Safely- Smart Social media-
Onguard Online -

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